As one sets out upon a sojourn...
a path appears...
There's s sign pointing down the path that reads:
This way to unconditional love...

Sure, we've all heard of "it"...
most of us have never experienced "it" ever, from anyone..
So how do we know how to get there, if we haven't experienced "it" & don't even know what it feels like?

Just as we have that thought...
we get a rock in our shoe.
We have to stop & sit down to get it out.
That's when we see another sign...
one we would have otherwise walked right by & it says;

Unconditional Love is based on
The Nucleus Effect: if our thoughts become
"unconditionally" loving...
"unconditionally" loving people are attracted to us.
That's when we pick up the rock from our shoe...
& thank it for getting us to stop & see
this message that was right next to us.
We would have missed it, if we hadn't been uncomfortable... so remember:
It's O.K. to get uncomfortable... & although not required...
the path usually goes that way.

Seeing our reflection can help us to see ourselves
However, we can look in the mirror everyday
& still not see ourselves.

When it comes to our concepts of home...
the birth family is the place to start...

This is only a test... for the next few seconds
you'll be evaluating something you can do nothing about
except to accept what ever went down & move on.

Now about that moving on part...
How can we see our past
without getting too obsessed with anything in the past?

By realizing this... if we don't face our shodows & they will keep coming back in other forms... repeating the cycle, until we realize it's pattern
& spiral on to a new way of seeing all, that has to do with it.
Attention:
We're no longer helpless children
at the mercy of our situation
& how we handle the repeating patterns is in getting the message it's telling us about what we need to grow so we can spiral onwards or blame others, add another picture to the wall & continue the cycle!

Once we fully realize...
what ever we were "raised to believe"
stays with us long after we've moved on...
it's still there in all our sub-conscious actions
& inter-actions in all our relationships...
dialoging in our conscious mind & in our dreams unconsciously...
Especially if we denounce anything we were taught!
Even if we know we're justified to feel that way!
We keep hearing "experts" say...

If you (& everyone you know)
were raised in a "dysfunctional family"...
where everyone was "co-dependent" with each other... then...

What do these labels really mean?

Co-dependent: "It hurts me to do this for you, but I do it anyway...
because I love you."
Tough Love: Can look a lot like dysfunctional behavior with justifications.

Simply put for inner8home8alchemists:
If love hurts... 1) stare down the pain with perception
2) accept that it's one of your patterns
3) be aware of it over time
4) understand why it once protected you &
5) that it isn't not doing that anymore.

At some point... the POINT is...
What's functional?
being inter8dependent
& it goes something like this...

If anything really feels uncomfortable to any of us
we talk about it & see if we can come up with
a better agreement together.

We are guided to trust our intuitions
& our own connection to essence...
so independence can evolve naturally.

With a gentle strength & a soft touch that
we know & trust works best in most situations.

We can restructure how we view
home inside8in our hearts
no matter what
circumstances we came from.


Who we are...
is being expressed
through a set of walls around our hearts.
A complex set of responses to "whatever" we had to do...
to get the love we all deserve.
Each frozen moment is a picture on the wall
of when we decided that it needed to be there
to love & protect us...
And that it did, however is it helping us now, or getting in our way?
Each picture on the wall is framed with our justifications
as to why we believe what we do.

When we see the picture of what it is...
it becomes a window & when we take an action to let go
it becomes a doorway

Each complicated
usually well intended hoop
we were coached to jump through...
is all about our eventual path leading us all
to unconditional love
where we live at one... in a state of peace
(at hOMe)
continually

walls around our hearts disappear... we let go of the past
being truely be out of the way we continually awakening to each moment fresh... open to the many poeeibilities that life brings us
with our inner mother, inner father, & inner child at peace.
The Big "it"!
Since we all spend some time being dragged around
by unresolved childhood experiences
that keep us creating
the same situations in life over & over again & again...
each time with different players
until we get "it"...

Each person sees "it" differently...
THE bottom is YOUR particular bottom!
How far down is far enough to get "it" is totally up to you?

"it's" all about how we look at "it"!

than in our hearts...

HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS
The Initiation
We've had it! All the former "it's" we have known no longer work for us.
Everything we thought was true for us, is no longer true.
Desire has lead us into despair & now we are ready to see things differently.
Although at times it may not feel wonderful, this is a wonderful place to be...

Dissatisfaction has a purpose...
use your depression to go inwards & heal...
let your pain lead the way.
Pain is there to show the way.
However, remember to focus on the healing... not the pain.
Let go of the pain
through understanding what a blessing it is
to get to this point.
Seeing the perfect now...
starts the centrifugal force that spirals us
into quantum leaps of greater understanding
insights into our souls purpose.
IN PLAIN ENGLISH PLEASE...

We see we aren't having as much fun
as we thought we were
& it could be a lot easier.

We see the spiral in ourselves
& choose to spiral on...

Each moment is an opportunity
for more understanding...
of how energy moves magical
through coincidences in our lives.
Our intuitions grows stronger as we
nurture them with our joy that leads us to an
unconditional love vibration
that puts us in alignment
with our peace...

Awakenings usually happens cuz we have just plummeted down
about as far as we needed to, to get "it".
All the former "it's" we have known no longer work for us.
Everything we thought was true for us, is no longer true.
Desire has lead us into despair & now...
We are ready to see things differently.
Although at times it may not feel wonderful
this is a wonderful place to be...
We are all attracted ultimately
to the information we need to understand our selves...
When we realize this., we have returned to being full of wonder...
Like Alice in Wonderland...

We see that

Each layer of being "at ease"
is a further essence of trust deeper inside.
Letting go of "dis-ease" is a matter of deeper levels of relaxation...
allowing our bodies to be in the best situation to heal.
which has always been here...
waiting for us to recognize it inside us!

As we listen to our hearts intuitions
& do as many 'righteous acts of kindness' as we are guided to do...
Life has a certian poetry & finds it way to work things out...
even better than we could have ever orchestrated...
& at a natural pace...
thats based on: what feels at hOMe
& wisdom we've gained in living this way.

Qui Chang, the Shaolin Priest
on the 70's hit series: Kung Fu
Taoist Tell-a-vision

He had no problem & often prefered
letting others see him as "helpless"... because he wasn't.
He never threw the first punch & only raised a hand
for self-defense or helping the innocent who could not defend themselves against an opressor.
He knew how to help others he met along his vision questing path... without getting caught up in their drama.
He was always willing to see what ever came his way
as what he was meant to resolve from his past.
The awesome temple flashbacks teach us
what he was taught in his Shoalin Temple Priest Training:
each now... is here as an important opportunity
to release past karma
as a gift to our future selves"

walking in peace... covering his foot steps as he walks...
clean-karma-wise

FOR KIDS & ELDERS OF ALL AGES
Self-parent before parenting friends,
animals, kids &
eventually our own parents.
How To Be (a) Trans8parent
A parent whose out of the way...
allowing a child to trust their own intuitions.
While balancing letting them know always,
if need be, the parent is behind them 100%.
This way a healthy independence occurs naturally.
Behaviors we would like to cultivate
happen when as much as possible we:
live it in our own behaviors
be it in our thoughts, prayers, & meditations
giving as many choices as they can make for themselves
calmly explaining corrections with no judgments on who they are...
or added emotional baggage about what it means to you...
(which means they'll learn to correct themselves with out adding emotional baggage.)
so they can feel good about discovering who they are directly.
Kids & animals read energy vibs honestly & can teach us a lot!
One of all babies first words is "Dah"...
perhaps were getting the pronounciation wrong
& it's really "Duh!" that their saying.

Gangaji a modern Qui Chang
(a white, middle aged, American, woman)
who's taken on the work of noted holy men in India:
Sri H.W.L. Poonja (Papaji) from Sri Ramana Maharshi Lineage
This is the teaching:
"See & Experience
the blessed divine "so what"
that leads to desire-less-ness
You are that!
If you are astute about the story behind your suffering...
you will recogn